Offer encouragement and guidance— not answers

Special to 318 Forum

When your child is stuck on a math problem, flustered by a writing assignment or overwhelmed by a science project, it’s tempting to step in and take the reins.

But while helping with homework can strengthen learning, doing too much of it can send the wrong message and prevent kids from developing the skills they need to succeed on their own.

So how do parents strike the right balance? With a little strategy and a lot of patience, you can support your child’s academic growth while still encouraging independence and resilience.

Create the Right Environment

Start by setting up a consistent homework routine and a dedicated workspace free from distractions. A well-lit table with basic supplies nearby helps kids stay focused and organized. Establishing a regular time for homework, whether right after school or after a short break, creates helpful structure.

Stay nearby during homework time, especially for younger children, but try not to hover. Let them know you’re available if they need help, and check in occasionally to offer encouragement or answer questions.

Offer Guidance, Not Answers

When your child is stuck, try guiding them to find the solution rather than jumping in with it. Ask prompting questions like, “What do you think the next step is?” or “Can you show me how you got that answer?” Encouraging them to explain their thinking out loud can help clarify their own understanding.

For writing assignments, you might brainstorm ideas together or talk through the structure of a paragraph, but let them choose the words and write the sentences. For math, you can review a similar example problem without solving the one they’re working on.

If your child makes a mistake, resist the urge to fix it. Teachers need to see what a student understands and where they’re struggling to provide meaningful feedback.

Encourage Effort and Celebrate Progress

Focusing on the learning process — not just the end result — can build confidence and motivation. Praise your child for sticking with a tough assignment, thinking critically or using a new strategy. Let them know it’s OK to make mistakes and that challenges are part of learning.

If homework time becomes a daily struggle or your child seems consistently overwhelmed, reach out to their teacher. They can offer insight into how much support is expected at home and may suggest modifications or additional resources.

Helping with homework doesn’t mean having all the answers. It means being a cheerleader, a sounding board and a safe place to land when school feels hard. With the right mix of support and independence, your child can build the skills to tackle assignments with growing confidence and take pride in what they accomplish on their own.